A Catholic wedding is not just a ceremony; it is a Sacrament. You are not just signing a contract; you are entering a covenant with God. because of this, the preparation process is longer and deeper involved than a secular wedding.
Don't panic! Here is a timeline to get you down the aisle.
9-12 Months Before
- [ ] Get Engaged! (Congratulations!)
- [ ] Call the Parish: Do this BEFORE you book a reception venue. Churches fill up fast.
- [ ] Meet the Priest: You must meet with the priest/deacon who will witness your vows.
- [ ] Set the Date: Confirm the church is free. Note: No weddings during the Triduum (Holy Thursday–Easter Sunday) and rarely during Lent.
6-9 Months Before
- [ ] Start Pre-Cana: This is the mandatory marriage preparation course. It might be a weekend retreat, a series of classes, or a mentor couple program.
- [ ] Gather Documents:
- Recent Baptismal Certificate (issued within last 6 months)
- First Communion / Confirmation certificates
- Freedom to Marry affidavit (witness testimony)
- Civil Marriage License (closer to the date)
- [ ] Select Wedding Party: Note that your maid of honor/best man do not have to be Catholic.
3-6 Months Before
- [ ] Plan the Liturgy:
- Choose Readings (1 Old Testament, 1 Psalm, 1 New Testament, 1 Gospel).
- Choose Music: Must be sacred music. (No "All of Me" or "Here Comes the Bride" typically — ask your music director).
- Mass or Ceremony? (Mass involves Communion; Ceremony does not. If one spouse is non-Catholic, a Ceremony is often recommended).
- [ ] Meet with Music Director: Book the organist/cantor.
1-3 Months Before
- [ ] Finalize Program: Print worship aids so guests can follow along.
- [ ] Confession: Go to Confession to prepare your soul for the Sacrament.
- [ ] Get Marriage License: From the county clerk. Bring this to the rehearsal!
The Day Before
- [ ] Rehearsal: Walk through the liturgy.
- [ ] Pray: Spend 15 minutes alone with God.
FAQ
Can we get married outdoors?
Generally, no. A Catholic wedding is a sacred event that belongs in the sacred space (the church), not on a beach or golf course. Exceptions are rare and require bishop approval.
Does the dress have to be modest?
Yes. You are in a church. Shoulders should be covered (or wear a bolero/shawl during the Mass).
How much does the church cost?
There is usually a fee for the church upkeep, the organist, and the cantor. The priest does not charge a fee, but a stipend (gift) is customary ($100-$300).
Your wedding lasts a day; your marriage lasts a lifetime. Prepare for the marriage even more than the wedding. Pray for your future spouse on the MyPrayerTower app.